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Hey, everybody. Welcome to the Ready for Love podcast.
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Today is another special day where we are interviewing one of our Ready for
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Love alumni, or graduates of our program.
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And if you’ve been listening to the last many weeks, we’ve been infusing
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into these weekly conversations, these types of interviews, because I
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really want to give you an opportunity to hear from women who’ve gone through our
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program. It’s inspirational, it’s motivational, it’s
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educational, and it gives me an opportunity to really highlight the
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amazing women that I get to work with that do our program,
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because I really, truly believe that any woman who’s willing to
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look in the mirror, do the work on herself is the most elite and
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extraordinary woman on the planet, and I want to share them with you.
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We all want to know these types of women.
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So without further ado, today we are, um, speaking with
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Charlene. She is a fabulous, fabulous lady, and I can’t wait for you to hear
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from her. Um, and just a brief intro, she was a
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teacher for 29 years. Thank you, thank you
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for being a teacher, the most underappreciated of among us, I
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believe. For 29 years, like you’ve got to be the most uber
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patient human being in the world. Can I have some of your patience,
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please? Um, (laughs) and then you retired.
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She retired and is now a master transformational
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health and life coach. And spoiler
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alert, which I hate to say, and I hate to do, but she is now one
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of the coaches for our, for our program. Yay!
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Um, such an amazing woman is now part of our team.
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I love, I love when that happens. So welcome,
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Charlene.
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I just got goosebumps, by the way.
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(laughs) (laughs)
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It’s so exciting. I’m so happy to be here.
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I love … So a lot of women go through our program and then want to work for
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us, and I think, of course, I, again, we work with the
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most amazing women in the program as clients, so why wouldn’t I want you to be part
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of my team? So yes, we’re doing that.
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It’s amazing. So, okay, so what we want to know
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is when you decided to join the program, where were you
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at in life? What was going on with you and what were you struggling with?
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Okay, so we’re gonna do some backstory then.
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Yeah.
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Um, so, um, back in, uh, May of 2022, my
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husband was diagnosed with cancer, and, you
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know, anything that could have gone wrong did.
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Um,
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and he succumbed to, you know, he died basically nine months
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later. And I spent the last, you know, two and a half
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years, um, mourning, grieving, and my parent, my mother died in the
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midst. I mean, it was a, it was a rough three years, like my mom, my husband, and
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then my dad. So three paramount people died in my life,
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and, you know, I spent, I’ve, I’ve been in all
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forms of therapy my entire life, different modalities, and, um,
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I felt back in, you know, you know, May, June, I’m like, “Nah, I feel
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like I’m ready to get back into the ring after everything that I’ve gone through.”
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‘Cause I’m young, you know, I, I, I, I, I love, I, I
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love to be loved, I love to love, and I’m like, “I think I’m ready.” And
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I went onto a dating app, and the guys that I was attracting, I’m like,
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“Oh my God,” I was a hot mess. And I’m like, “This is, this is not
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good.” It was like I felt, I was desperate, and every time I’d be on my
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phone, um, I’d be scrolling through, I’d see your program, and I’m like, “Hmm,” and
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I would just pause for a second, and I would hear things, and I would just say to
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myself like, “Okay,” and then I would just keep swiping along, but there was a day
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like I think it was the fourth guy I went out with that it was like that breaking
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point of like, “I am a mess. How I am showing up, I am attracting
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these disasters of men.” No, you know, no offense to them, but I’m
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like, “What the hell is going on with me? I clearly need help. I need help.
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Something is wrong in here,” you know?
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And even though I was doing a deep dive on my marriage, ’cause all marriages are
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work, and, you know, I realized that I was showing up in desperation and all that,
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it was still there. So I realized I hadn’t healed.
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So I was like, I, I remember calling, I remember the day I called, it was my
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sister’s birthday, and I called him on the phone.
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I’m like, “Okay, I’m ready,” you know?
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Like, “I need to do something.” And so I joined one.
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So really it was, it was, you had just gone through a shit storm in your own life.
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Oh my God, it was a total shit storm.
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You thought you were ready, but when you were dating, what you were
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experiencing really was a mirror for you and you realized, “I don’t think I’m
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ready.” (laughs)
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Yes. So yeah. Yeah, yeah.
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It was so heavy. Everything felt so heavy.
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I’m like, “Why is it so heavy?”
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Yeah.
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You know, the guy’s like, you know, like-
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Not supposed to
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be. … “Oh,” like, “I’m broken. I’m in a, I’m in the middle of a d-” It was just so
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heavy, I’m like, “Ugh,” you know? “I need to stop.”
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So you were attracting men who were in the middle of divorces.
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You were attracting men who had issues, who were in, in, in trouble.
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Emotionally unavailable, the whole nine yards, right? So yeah.
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That was the, that was my big thing, yeah.
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Well, I love that you had the foresight or the insight
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to recognize that something was going on with you to ask yourself, “What
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am I doing wrong? Why is this what I’m experiencing?” Instead of just blaming
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all men being shitty. That’s pretty big.
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No, I didn’t think it was me. Well, I mean, you figure, you know, you know, ’cause
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with therapy, you always, the mirror, when you’re married, the mirror’s always in
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your face. So it’s like, you know, and so to me, it made sense that like I, it’s
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clearly the energy I’m putting out is the energy that’s coming back my way.
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So I was like, “Okay, I, I got to… I can’t seem to figure this out on my own.
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I need help,” and so…
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Yeah. Well, and we’re gonna talk about that t- in a second.
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What I’d like to do is back up and actually talk about your marriage a little
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bit. And, and I’m doing this for any listener who’s been in your
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situation.
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Mm-hmm.
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Um, and I train my team who does those enrollment calls to how
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to handle this, because
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w- not all women who were married and are widows had a good
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experience in their marriage. Some did, some
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didn’t.
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And I know, actually, I learned
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this from…… doing these calls myself,
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and, and these calls that we do are these, like, 75-minute deep dive
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conversations with women to make sure we’re a fit, can we really help
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you, and we do get a lot of women who, who are widows and book calls with
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us. And what, what most of the women get from their
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friends, their therapist is, “You poor thing. You’re so grieving.
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You’re…” “How hard for you.” And while that might be a part of it, it’s
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not always all of it, and we provide a safe,
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confidential space to tell the truth.
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And I once had a woman say, “Thank God he died because that was the only way I was
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ever gonna get out of that situation.”
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Hmm.
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And I learned, oh my God, like, let’s not assume that
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somebody who’s a widow is the grieving widow.
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They, you know, we can’t assume anybody’s experience.
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And so we, what we started doing on the calls when we have a widow on the
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phone is saying, “Look, like, marriage is hard.
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Nothing is ever perfect. Relationships take work and are a
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struggle. You’re getting a second chance at this that you didn’t
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want to have, expect to have, or ever thought that you would.
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So what was not working in your marriage that you really
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want to do differently the next time around?” And I love
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that question because it really allows women a safe space to just be
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honest about, “Well, that was a good marriage, but it wasn’t great.” Another woman
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once told me that she had been in an abusive marriage, or an abusive
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relationship,
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and so when she married the man she did, she picked a good guy.
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He was safe. He provided security.
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He was kind and gentle and loving, but she spent
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20 years in a marriage without, like, without passion,
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without connection-
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… without a great sex life. And so she was grateful, and she never would’ve
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left, but here she is having an opportunity to do this again,
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and that is one thing that she really was hoping to get the next
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time around. So for you, then, having said all that, what
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was going on in your marriage? What was your marriage like that,
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you know, whether it was good, bad, all around, all of it, like, perfectly
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imperfect and whatever it was, what was going on in your marriage that you wanted,
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that you now know you wanna do differently going forward?
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So it’s interesting because e- going back to the first date, like, it was the
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best first date I’ve ever been on, you know? My friend set us up.
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She’s like, “I found the perfect guy for you.” He was 6’6″, like, 200, like,
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big muscular guy, and I was like, “Oh my God.” Like, it was beau- I was so
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attracted to him, and it turned into this whirlwind, and
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it was crazy, and it was, and, and, and I remember along the way,
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Hillary, like, there were things I’m like, “Slow down.” So, and I wouldn’t slow
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down. I was like, “Oh, I gotta keep the momentum going because he sees me, he likes
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me,” because all my life, it’s like, you always want somebody to like you and to
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see you. And so, I realized one of my big things was I was always looking
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outside instead of looking inside, like, looking outside for affirmation,
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looking outside for acceptance, looking outside.
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So I was always hungry for that, and he provided that, but what was
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interesting is he had his insecurities, I came in with
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mine, and it was this very, I had a very tumultuous marriage, very
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tumultuous. It was either wonderful or it was
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godawful. And, you know, he would threaten to leave, like,
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“I’m leaving,” and I would leech on, “Don’t leave,” and I would literally,
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abandonment issues would be, like, flying high, and I’m grabbing
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onto him for dear life saying, “Please don’t leave me.
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Please don’t leave me.” It was intense, but then, a- and so, but then it would be,
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like, these moments of, like, “Oh, you’re the greatest thing ever.” So you’re like,
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“Okay.” So those little crumbs just kind of keep you in the game, and those little
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glimpses of hope would just keep me in the game for the 12 years that we were
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together. And so, and, and over time, I was like, I,
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I literally, my light just got dimmer and dimmer and dimmer because I allowed
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that to happen, you know? And I don’t, I don’t point my finger at him. I own that.
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I’m like, “I allowed this to happen,” and that’s the work that I, that I’ve been
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doing of, like, I realized that I have to take
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responsibility for my actions in that marriage, and I showed up in ways that
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I’m like, “Ooh.” You know, that was like in desperation, in
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agony, in pain and, like, I wasn’t showing up in love.
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I was showing up in desperation in that marriage.
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And, you know, and I clung to that man. I clung hard.
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And, but over time, like, you know, throughout our, you know, throughout the last
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couple of years, you know, he would threaten to leave, and I was like, “Go
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ahead,” you know? And then he would s- and we would play this manipulative back and
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forth game. So for me, it was, it was really, I was, it was really
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unhealthy with an underlying current of love and friendship,
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which was really strange ’cause we were really good friends.
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So when, like, the shit would hit the fan, we’d sit out on the front porch, and
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he’d be like, “Thank God we’re friends.” I’m like, “Thank God we’re friends.” And
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when he got sick, by the way, before he got sick, we were talking about separating.
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We’re like, I’m, I’m like, “I’ve had enough.” Like, I’d reached my breaking point
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where I’m like, “I am done with trying to fit into this mold that I’m too
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much for you, that I’m too this, that I’m too… I’m done.
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I need to be who I am,” ’cause I was getting sick of that.
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And even our lifestyles were different. He didn’t like to travel.
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I love to travel, you know? I love to be around people.
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He wasn’t as social as I was. So, you know, in looking back at all of that,
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I’m like, “Hmm, it really did shine a light on stuff.” And when he got
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sick, we did have a big blowout. I was like, “You don’t…” I’m like, “I’m not
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going anywhere.” You don’t kick somebody when they’re down.
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I’m like, “We are friends, and I love you.
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I’m never gonna stop loving you.” And so, you know,
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having gone through that, like, watching him get sick and being with
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him through his sickness actually brought us together because it, like, it’s like
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when you’re staring death in the face, you all of a sudden let go of the shit that
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doesn’t matter, and for the first time in 12 years, that man leaned
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into me, and I was like, “Oh, there you are.
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I’ve been looking for you the entire… Where the hell have you been?” You know?
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So it was a really powerful-
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… and yeah, it was, oh my God, it was so pow- I could cry.
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So, you know, and like I said, I, I think back
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and, about all that I, I, I, I did and acted, and
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I’m like, “My, my, my,” and I, I want to hug that woman so much and be like, “You,
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you, oh, oh my goodness, you were in so much pain.”
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wanted to be loved,” so yeah.
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Yeah. Oh my gosh, that’s just an incredible story.
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Yeah, I, I almost got teary for a second too, like I did actually.
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I’m, like, I’m not gonna go to the crumbly cry.
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But, but, like, that… I think that probably is
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probably what a lot of people have in their relationship, which is,
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like, highs and lows, don’t know how to get out of it.
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You can’t live with, can’t live without somebody.
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Yeah. Um, and it’s a lot… It’s a…
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It’s not bad enough to leave. It’s, h- you know…
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Oh, the negotiations in this brain.
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Oof, the justifications that you sit in that brain, like, you know-
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Yeah. And then, oh… And then I don’t wanna be alone, and, you know, I- I- I’d
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rather be with this and then be alone.
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Like, you literally do go through a lot of, like, turmoil in your mind and, like,
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of space – Yeah, I mean, people stay in that, “Should I stay or should I go?” for years at
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that limbo of… Right? It’s, it’s, it’s not bad enough to
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leave, but it’s not great enough to stay, and can I take this
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anymore. Um, so, uh, you know, uh, we
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always talk in the program about the lessons and the blessings and how
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everything ends up working out in your favor.
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Well, it’s definitely not a good thing that he’s gone.
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However, for you being the survivor of that,
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um, of that relationship, to learn your
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lessons for yourself is a gift.
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That’s all that you can do with it. So, then moving forward then, when you
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were dating, were you seeing yourself showing up the same way
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as you had been-
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… in your marriage?
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Yeah, I did, and it was interesting ’cause I, I was saying to myself, I’m like,
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“Oh, all the stuff that I’ve been, gone through, all the healing stuff, all the
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last, like, X amount of years,” and all of a sudden, I’m like, I’m attracting, uh,
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people like him, you know, with their insecurities and, and, and the
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heaviness and the intensity. It was so intense.
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And I’m like, “This is not good.” And I could just feel it in
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my bones. I’m like, “Oh my God, I’m going down the same rabbit hole.
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I’m going down the same path that I was doing before, but I don’t know what to do
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about it.” I’m like, “I need help.” That’s what I was saying.
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I’m like, “I n- I can’t figure this out on my own.
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I need help.”
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So, yeah.
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Yeah, well, this is how women go through, whether it’s a divorce or just ending
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a, a long relationship, it’s how women end up repeating patterns,
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right?
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You go through the whole laborious, exhausting
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process of dismantling a life together, if it’s by choice in divorce
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or whatever. It’s not the same with, with a death, but,
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like, moving on from a relationship only to then find yourself in another one
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that’s exactly the same. It’s just a big blind spot.
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So, I love that you were able to self-reflect enough to see,
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“Oh my God, I’m doing it again. I’m inviting-”
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Yes. “… this dynamic.”
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Yeah. I was like, “No, thank you. I can’t… I cannot do this.
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I can’t.”
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So, ’cause I was just living, reliving and owning what I was reliving.
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I’m like, “No way.”
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Yeah. Well, and a lot of women do that.
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They see where they’re going wrong, but they don’t know what to do differently and
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how to do it. So, it’s knowing better, but not doing better.
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Sounds like where you were stuck.
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Well, it’s almost like you have, like, a, a textbook that you learn something from,
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and then when you go to apply it, you’re like, “I- I don’t know how to…
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Wait a minute. That’s… I’m not… Wait, hold on. I’m not doing…” Right?
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And that was what it was. I’m like, “I know, I know what I’m supposed to do.
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I know how things are supposed to be, but I’m not actually implementing that.” You
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know?
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I’m not employing that. Yeah, I’m not living that.
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Yeah, it’s execution, like, you know, like-
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Uh-huh. … executing it, like, on paper. I know what I’m supposed to do, but what does,
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does that look like in action? Okay, so what I wanna know now then, share with
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everybody what you came to learn about what you were doing
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wrong or what needed to heal for you.
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Like, what specific… You know, there’s the behaviors and how you’re acting and
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what you’re doing, but there’s also kind of underneath it all, like, what’s going
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on at the deeper level. So, whatever insights from the program that you
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got or tools that you, that were really…
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That stuck with you that helped you see this and then shift it.
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I mean, for me, I can… I, I, I almost know the modules really well.
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So, and, you know, one of the biggest things that really…
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Initially, when I first started watching them was the sunny side up.
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I, I love that, where you’re talking about how we eclipse one another in
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relationships, but you’re like, “No, there’s space for you and, and, and then your
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togetherness.” And that, that visual was so really powerful.
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That was the first thing that I was like, “You can co-exist together and stay
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exactly who you are.” Because to me, like, one of the things that I-
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that I will never do is dim my light again. My, I want…
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My light is shining brightly. So, by going through this program and all these
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amazing things that you come along, you, you come to realize how you’re showing
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up and, like, what my insecurities were, the abandonment issues and not being
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enough, not being lovable, you know? And so…
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And just having and always looking outside for those affirmations,
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you know? And me going through that and the how dare you exercises on,
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on the things that were… In, in the ways that you were wronged, and, and family
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expectations. Like, it’s like, holy crap, and how, you know, you’re showing
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up as, like, a connector in one space and a differentiator in others.
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And, and I’m like, “Oh, I’m a connector when I’m with my brother, but is it an
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interesting that I’m the differentiator, the overbearer when I’m with…” It- it’s
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just so interesting, like, when you’re… You- the- the…
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What I love is the consciousness of things, and the, again, the way that you
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frame things is different from anything I’ve ever experienced. Like, we’ve gone…
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I’ve gone through the childhood, whatever, but you do it in such a way that I’m
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like, “Damn, this is, ah! Oh my God.” Like, I’ve had so many, like,
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epiphanies as I would go through this program.
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And, you know, and, like, when you go through the, like, the, the ace conversation
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was one of my f- I do it all the time. I’m acing constantly, like, I’m always
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talking to, like-
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(laughs) … one of my little ones. I’ve got, like, a 12-year-old. I’ve got an 8-year-old.
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I’ve got a f- I, you know, I had, like, a- my 50- my 53-year-old from a few months
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ago, right? So, I was talking to her.
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And so it’s like you have these great tools that you actually provide that
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you can… That you, that you use forever, right?
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That you can… That just become part of your identity.
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The thing I struggled with the most, honestly, was putting
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together my non-negotiable, my, my, my values, my, um,
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non-negotiables. I had… It took me three weeks because I had never
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realized, I never asked myself what I wanted. What do I want?
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It was always about, “Oh, he sees me. He wants me.” You see, “Oh, he wants me.
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He wants me,” and I never asked myself what I wanted.And
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it- right? And like, that was like, my- that was-
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Hello. … probably my like, “Hello.” I had never asked myself, “What do
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I want in a g- like, in a guy?”
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Yeah.
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And that’s why it took me so long, and it was like, I can’t, like, “Wow.” And it
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was, I wa- at first I was like, “Holy,” I was just blown away by that, and then
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when I dove deep into it, I dug deep, I’m like, and I put all that together, all
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my values, all my non-negotiables, I was like, “Okay.”
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And now, I like, they are with me, they are present any, you know, so
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when I went back into the dating pool, you know, the different
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guys were showing up. Like, different-
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Yes. (laughs) … different energies were coming my way.
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‘Cause Charlene was different. Charlene-
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‘Cause Charlene showed up, and I’m like-
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Hey.
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… “There she is,” you know? Yeah.
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And like, all that I am, and realizing and but it’s- the other thing
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too, Hillary, is that I, the biggest, uh, even bigger than
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like, m- asking, like, b- for what I want, I fell in love
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with myself-
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Yay.
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… in this program. I am like, I am like, I’m like, “I’m
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fuckin’ awesome. I’m pretty fuckin’ great,” you know?
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And so, that’s what my big takeaway is, I’m like, I’m like, “Yeah,” so
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nobody, I have this impervious, you know, space in my little
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world that, you know, that it’s like, it p- people are like, they talk about
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boundaries, and mine is like this little warm space with a
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fireplace, and like, books and all that, and people can come visit,
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and it’s like, “You can come, you can come,” and you know, let go of the outcome,
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that was another big takeaway, I don’t care about outcomes, you know, I’m just
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living in the moment, I’m living in the pre- and I’m living for me.
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Oh my God, my cheeks hurt so bad. (laughs)
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Right? And that’s-
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But
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it’s good. … that’s what it is, like, I am living for me, and I’m like, it feels so
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good.
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Yes.
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And I’m doing what I wanna do.
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Yes.
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You know?
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And- Oh my gosh, you just said so many amazing things that I wanna go back to and break
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it all down for our listeners.
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Yes, let’s break it down.
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So, yeah, the non-negotiables, like, honestly, so many
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women, and you’d be surprised how
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many high-achieving, super successful, smart women,
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educated women show up in their love lives just taking what they’re getting and
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not getting what they want, because they don’t even know, A, what they want, that
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they can ask for what they want, that they can-
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Yeah.
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… choose what they want, they’re not clear what they want, and so some guy
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comes along and he’s interested in you and you’re like, “Okay, I’m interested
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because you’re interested in me.”
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Yes.
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And that is like, such a low bar, hello, how many men are gonna
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be interested in you because you’re interesting and you’re amazing?
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That is not a reason to be interested in somebody.
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Yes.
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So I love that, and that’s, like you said, one of the biggest things, but you
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listed so many of the tools, and it just always
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t- always, like, I know there’s a lot in there,
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and- and it’s just a lot, but when I hear women talk about it, it’s like, “Oh,
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yeah, that. Oh, that, and that. Like, I created that.” And it’s so amazing,
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and you’re right-
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Yes, you can.
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… it’s one stacked on top of another after another after another, and they all
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work together in this really synergistic way
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to get deep down into the part of you that actually unlocks the
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change, because so many women-
434
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Yes.
435
00:20:48.850 –> 00:20:52.580
… have done a lot of work on themselves already, and so they have all the
436
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knowledge, like we said at the beginning, where you know better but you’re not
437
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doing better. It’s not, it’s just not i- integrating,
438
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it’s not becoming-
439
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Yes.
440
00:21:00.850 –> 00:21:04.520
… it doesn’t unlock, and so all these different
441
00:21:04.580 –> 00:21:07.840
modalities and metaphors and things and tools that I’m giving
442
00:21:08.560 –> 00:21:12.200
get- get access, like, it- it finally is like,
443
00:21:12.580 –> 00:21:16.300
gets the access to the deep part of yourself so that it actually clicks
444
00:21:16.380 –> 00:21:20.220
over and changes. And so, The Sunny Side Up,
445
00:21:20.260 –> 00:21:24.100
which came up on our, um, the last interview too, um, that we
446
00:21:24.200 –> 00:21:27.460
did, um, i- for the listeners, is really my
447
00:21:27.640 –> 00:21:30.560
model, so you’re not gonna f- Google it and find it.
448
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No.
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It is my creation, it is how, after
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working with couples for 15 years, I developed this new
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framework for understanding what it means din- to be healthy in a
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00:21:41.800 –> 00:21:45.700
relationship, how to be healthy in a relationship.
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And it is the- called The Sunny Side Up because it look, the, there’s a visual
454
00:21:49.740 –> 00:21:52.060
model of it, and it looks like two fried eggs.
455
00:21:52.070 –> 00:21:54.200
(laughs) And I couldn’t think of any other-
456
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I love it.
457
00:21:54.229 –> 00:21:56.480
… thing to call it, so that’s what it was.
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But it is so profound, and we teach that in the very first 20 minutes,
459
00:22:00.260 –> 00:22:03.940
because it’s like getting slapped in the face with, “Holy
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shit-”
461
00:22:05.200 –> 00:22:05.419
Yes.
462
00:22:05.429 –> 00:22:06.970
“… I’ve been doing it wrong my whole life.”
463
00:22:06.979 –> 00:22:09.859
That was huge, by the way. That, li- like, that was the, one of the fr- I was like,
464
00:22:09.880 –> 00:22:13.390
“Oh my God,” it was so arresting, you know, and so I wa-
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that just knocked me on my ass in such a good way, I was like,
466
00:22:16.820 –> 00:22:19.720
“Oh. Oh my God,” it, that’s- that- that, you know what it was?
467
00:22:19.730 –> 00:22:22.220
And it was hope, it was possible. It was possibility.
468
00:22:22.230 –> 00:22:24.000
“Oh my God, I- I’ve been seeing things
469
00:22:24.980 –> 00:22:28.700
in a r- I- I- I’m shifting my lens as we speak just by, but just by that
470
00:22:28.780 –> 00:22:30.690
dia- that diagram alone just-”
471
00:22:30.700 –> 00:22:31.080
Yeah.
472
00:22:31.090 –> 00:22:32.110
“… shifted something inside of me.”
473
00:22:32.120 –> 00:22:33.550
Yeah. It is pretty amazing.
474
00:22:33.720 –> 00:22:35.440
It was br- it was brilliant, Hillary. It was- it’s brilliant.
475
00:22:35.460 –> 00:22:35.730
Well, thank you.
476
00:22:35.740 –> 00:22:36.660
Your program is, it’s a br-
477
00:22:36.720 –> 00:22:37.210
Oh, thank you.
478
00:22:37.210 –> 00:22:40.720
… it’s a- your program is br- it’s a brilliantly d- I- I mean, is brilliant
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00:22:40.800 –> 00:22:43.640
program. I still journal. I journal every day.
480
00:22:43.700 –> 00:22:43.950
Yeah, good.
481
00:22:43.980 –> 00:22:47.380
I manifest, I have visualizations, I manifest things in my head and they
482
00:22:47.440 –> 00:22:49.600
come. It’s like, unbelievable. So-
483
00:22:49.640 –> 00:22:49.650
Yeah.
484
00:22:49.650 –> 00:22:50.300
… you know, it’s-
485
00:22:50.320 –> 00:22:54.140
It really is the perfect combination of doing, like, the science of psychology
486
00:22:54.760 –> 00:22:58.120
and neuroscience to change your brain, and the- the
487
00:22:58.200 –> 00:22:59.940
manifesting law of attraction stuff.
488
00:22:59.960 –> 00:23:03.810
It really is whe- where science meets woo, kind of, and-
489
00:23:04.060 –> 00:23:07.840
and the multiple modalities that are in this program that
490
00:23:07.860 –> 00:23:11.300
really help us reprogram m- the deepest parts of ourselves.
491
00:23:11.340 –> 00:23:14.550
You said so many of those tools and I’m trying to remember some of them are, but
492
00:23:14.550 –> 00:23:14.550
493
00:23:14.550 –> 00:23:16.630
you- We talked about the ACE, I talk about the ACE conver-
494
00:23:16.660 –> 00:23:17.520
Like the ACE, yeah.
495
00:23:17.530 –> 00:23:18.130
… the ACE, yes.
496
00:23:18.130 –> 00:23:22.020
Yeah. Well, that was, that’s a brilliant contribution to the program by Cheri,
497
00:23:22.080 –> 00:23:26.030
our lead coach, um, whose, like, zone of
498
00:23:26.140 –> 00:23:30.100
genius and her area of expertise where she actually creates some of her
499
00:23:30.200 –> 00:23:34.120
own, you know, body of work is around the inner child healing, and the ACE
500
00:23:34.160 –> 00:23:37.930
conversation is something that Cheri created, um,
501
00:23:38.000 –> 00:23:41.760
that helps women walk through how to talk to the little you
502
00:23:41.820 –> 00:23:45.640
inside of you, she calls it your little who, to actually
503
00:23:45.680 –> 00:23:49.192
continue the healing in a way, even now….
504
00:23:49.202 –> 00:23:50.371
and, and it is brilliant.
505
00:23:50.392 –> 00:23:54.072
The way I see the ACE conversation is, like, you get to go back and reparent
506
00:23:54.111 –> 00:23:57.202
yourself in a way that you weren’t, that you did, that you didn’t get.
507
00:23:57.212 –> 00:23:59.452
Like, you get to be the parent, so you get to take charge.
508
00:23:59.472 –> 00:24:01.732
And that’s, again, goes, you’re taking your power back.
509
00:24:01.752 –> 00:24:02.992
That’s what this is all about.
510
00:24:03.002 –> 00:24:03.002
511
00:24:03.012 –> 00:24:06.072
You’re taking back your power, Severi- you’re, you’re being empowered.
512
00:24:06.111 –> 00:24:08.371
This is a, a program of empowerment.
513
00:24:08.392 –> 00:24:08.532
Yes.
514
00:24:08.591 –> 00:24:09.412
Literally. You know?
515
00:24:09.432 –> 00:24:09.542
It is.
516
00:24:09.542 –> 00:24:13.152
And, and, and that, right? And that falling in love with yourself, and that, to me,
517
00:24:13.212 –> 00:24:14.831
that was like, I- I am
518
00:24:15.972 –> 00:24:19.631
… Like I said, I will not compromise myself ever again.
519
00:24:19.652 –> 00:24:22.341
Like, I- I won’t. So this, so you have changed, this …
520
00:24:22.351 –> 00:24:24.111
You have changed my life.
521
00:24:24.192 –> 00:24:24.412
Yay.
522
00:24:24.452 –> 00:24:27.131
My life ha- my life has completely changed.
523
00:24:27.140 –> 00:24:27.162
And now
524
00:24:27.172 –> 00:24:29.381
Well, you changed your life. You did it.
525
00:24:29.412 –> 00:24:30.912
Well, you gave me the tools. How about this?
526
00:24:30.952 –> 00:24:33.512
You gave me the tools to change my life-
527
00:24:33.522 –> 00:24:33.522
528
00:24:33.522 –> 00:24:37.461
Yes. … in a way that I was, you know, like you said, I’ve been do- I- I’ve, you
529
00:24:37.472 –> 00:24:41.022
know, I have so much education behind things, but it was like I wasn’t doing, I
530
00:24:41.072 –> 00:24:44.861
wasn’t enacting it. And you created a program that made it
531
00:24:44.871 –> 00:24:46.392
possible to do that.
532
00:24:46.472 –> 00:24:48.182
Yeah. Thank you so much.
533
00:24:48.192 –> 00:24:48.202
Yeah.
534
00:24:48.232 –> 00:24:50.611
It’s, yeah, it’s just gets better and better.
535
00:24:50.652 –> 00:24:54.101
So, everybody wants to know, are you dating somebody?
536
00:24:54.152 –> 00:24:55.871
What’s going on in your love life?
537
00:24:56.212 –> 00:25:00.111
I am. So, the funny thing is, is, um, when I went back into the
538
00:25:00.252 –> 00:25:04.232
ring, if you will, you know, I had the you and me profile was playful,
539
00:25:04.292 –> 00:25:07.312
so I was getting a lot of, you know, stuff coming back.
540
00:25:07.391 –> 00:25:11.272
And I actually lowered the age group of guys that I
541
00:25:11.312 –> 00:25:14.272
was seeing, ’cause I was like, oh. My friends are like, “You are so energetic, you
542
00:25:14.292 –> 00:25:18.152
are so alive. Go younger, see what happens.” I’m like, “Okay.” So, a
543
00:25:18.351 –> 00:25:22.312
whole pool of, you know, people did, and so, what was interesting is
544
00:25:22.371 –> 00:25:26.132
every guy I would go out with was like, a really great guy, but they got better and
545
00:25:26.212 –> 00:25:30.121
better and better. So, the, the guy right before, th- you
546
00:25:30.172 –> 00:25:33.871
know, the guy I’m seeing now, like intellectually, like o- great human
547
00:25:33.952 –> 00:25:36.972
being, but the ke- but the, but the heat wasn’t there.
548
00:25:37.091 –> 00:25:39.792
Ugh, but I’m like, but I’m like, “Oh, but he’s such a great guy.” And, you know,
549
00:25:39.831 –> 00:25:41.202
it’s like, “No, no, no. We’re not doing…”
550
00:25:41.212 –> 00:25:43.512
Maybe the old you would have stayed and tried to make it work.
551
00:25:43.532 –> 00:25:46.972
The old me would have stayed and tried to make it work. I know that.
552
00:25:47.012 –> 00:25:49.152
That, ’cause that was the old me. Eh.
553
00:25:49.192 –> 00:25:51.452
And that’s where I had the ACE conversation with her.
554
00:25:51.472 –> 00:25:55.271
I’m like, “Listen, you, you know, I know we’re two for three, but we’re gonna be
555
00:25:55.312 –> 00:25:58.461
three for three because we are abundant, we are a banquet.
556
00:25:58.472 –> 00:26:02.371
We’re not getting crumbs, we’re going for the whole fricking thing.” So, you
557
00:26:02.412 –> 00:26:06.272
know, and it, like, a very nice conversation with the guy or whatever, and
558
00:26:06.312 –> 00:26:10.192
then I came, you know, met this very, like sweet, handsome
559
00:26:10.312 –> 00:26:11.871
guy who is, you know, he’s wonderful.
560
00:26:11.891 –> 00:26:15.532
He’s just a great human being. And you know, we talk
561
00:26:15.712 –> 00:26:18.452
heat, heart, you know, um-
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00:26:19.212 –> 00:26:19.312
Head.
563
00:26:19.331 –> 00:26:22.162
What was the third? Head, thank you. Heat, heart, and head. I’m like boom.
564
00:26:22.192 –> 00:26:24.322
Check, check, check. All the non-negotiables, everything just checks.
565
00:26:24.351 –> 00:26:28.322
I’m like, “Wow.” And just, you know, just continues to surprise me about
566
00:26:28.351 –> 00:26:30.312
what a amazing human being that he is.
567
00:26:30.322 –> 00:26:33.891
And it’s like, “Oh.” And the other thing that I love, I’m in no rush.
568
00:26:34.351 –> 00:26:37.512
I am not worried about outcomes. I’m not setting any long-term goals.
569
00:26:37.611 –> 00:26:41.331
I am literally living in the moment and embracing the moment, and just
570
00:26:41.432 –> 00:26:45.371
enjoying the time getting to know him, him getting to know me, learning about
571
00:26:45.412 –> 00:26:49.232
each other, and just enjoying the space that we have together, while also
572
00:26:49.242 –> 00:26:51.162
enjoying the space that I like to myself.
573
00:26:51.192 –> 00:26:55.042
So, like, it’s like when you think about what you want, I am getting exactly what I
574
00:26:55.132 –> 00:26:57.942
want. So, you know, ’cause I do enjoy my freedom.
575
00:26:58.111 –> 00:27:01.732
I do enjoy, you know, ’cause I’m a busy woman, I’m building this whole career, but
576
00:27:01.812 –> 00:27:05.192
I’m also enjoying having this space with this really lovely human being-
577
00:27:05.472 –> 00:27:05.581
Hey.
578
00:27:05.581 –> 00:27:09.492
… who is bringing out my creativity and encouraging me to do
579
00:27:09.611 –> 00:27:11.662
things, and it’s ju- it’s such a …
580
00:27:11.672 –> 00:27:15.572
I’m like, “This is wha- I, I, there’s no,” like, like, I- I would often
581
00:27:15.672 –> 00:27:19.591
come from a space of desperate. I’m just coming from a space of love and giving
582
00:27:19.601 –> 00:27:23.522
and receiving, and I’m feminine. I’m so feminine with
583
00:27:23.632 –> 00:27:26.581
him, like, you know, not trying to control anything.
584
00:27:26.591 –> 00:27:28.611
And I’m just like, I’m sitting back-
585
00:27:28.620 –> 00:27:29.002
(laughs)
586
00:27:29.002 –> 00:27:30.532
… and he’s like cooking me dinner.
587
00:27:30.572 –> 00:27:33.111
He’s like, you know, “What, what else can I do for you?” I’m like, “Okay.” You
588
00:27:33.152 –> 00:27:34.831
know, it’s just, it’s so nice.
589
00:27:34.851 –> 00:27:35.202
Oh my gosh.
590
00:27:35.252 –> 00:27:37.202
It’s, I’m like, I’m like such a girl and I love it.
591
00:27:37.232 –> 00:27:39.561
I’m like, I’m like just loving this, you know?
592
00:27:39.561 –> 00:27:39.561
593
00:27:39.572 –> 00:27:41.202
And it’s like I know I can … Yeah.
594
00:27:41.252 –> 00:27:45.242
I love that as you were dating, the second time around, after
595
00:27:45.272 –> 00:27:48.762
the program, the quality of men that you were attracting got
596
00:27:48.792 –> 00:27:49.532
better.
597
00:27:49.542 –> 00:27:49.542
598
00:27:49.542 –> 00:27:52.972
Yes. And as you continued to evelo- elevate yourself and show up,
599
00:27:53.351 –> 00:27:56.912
more and more you, you were attracting more and more great
600
00:27:57.091 –> 00:27:57.632
men.
601
00:27:57.641 –> 00:27:57.641
602
00:27:57.652 –> 00:27:59.732
That’s how it works.
603
00:27:59.802 –> 00:27:59.802
604
00:27:59.802 –> 00:28:02.972
Yes. It is a mirror. Like attracts like.
605
00:28:02.992 –> 00:28:06.831
And so, I just love, you just waited until you found
606
00:28:07.712 –> 00:28:11.512
the, all three things, all your, all your boxes checked. It’s all of it.
607
00:28:11.552 –> 00:28:11.942
But you also-
608
00:28:11.952 –> 00:28:12.022
Yeah.
609
00:28:12.022 –> 00:28:15.782
… trusted yourself to know the difference. Right?
610
00:28:15.812 –> 00:28:19.552
There’s a difference between a list on paper and recognizing it in
611
00:28:19.612 –> 00:28:21.081
real life when it’s-
612
00:28:21.091 –> 00:28:21.101
Yes.
613
00:28:21.101 –> 00:28:24.732
… standing in front of you, and that you’re not on the lookout for the red
614
00:28:24.831 –> 00:28:28.002
flags. You just trust yourself if something doesn’t feel right, you’re gonna take
615
00:28:28.032 –> 00:28:31.932
care of it. Or it’s not right, like the, the guy before the one you’re seeing now,
616
00:28:31.972 –> 00:28:34.712
like, it slowly unfolded that it wasn’t right.
617
00:28:35.532 –> 00:28:35.752
Yeah.
618
00:28:35.762 –> 00:28:39.752
You can trust yourself not to sacrifice, not to settle, not
619
00:28:39.792 –> 00:28:42.831
to sell out, and to wait. Um-
620
00:28:42.851 –> 00:28:43.172
Yes.
621
00:28:43.272 –> 00:28:44.572
So, how long has it been then?
622
00:28:45.452 –> 00:28:49.282
So, it’s um, we’re like a couple of months in now, you
623
00:28:49.331 –> 00:28:49.922
know? It’s like maybe-
624
00:28:49.932 –> 00:28:49.962
Yay.
625
00:28:50.012 –> 00:28:53.831
… two and a half months in, and it’s really nice. And I’m having so much fun.
626
00:28:53.871 –> 00:28:57.792
Like, I don’t feel any pressure. And it’s like, I- I’m, and, and the fact, and
627
00:28:57.871 –> 00:28:59.532
I like the slowness of it. You know?
628
00:28:59.552 –> 00:29:03.232
‘Cause I’m just like sh- you know, and I love how there’s no rush.
629
00:29:03.252 –> 00:29:03.302
Yeah.
630
00:29:03.302 –> 00:29:06.952
There’s no where, you know, and I just, and to me, it’s just so exciting.
631
00:29:06.992 –> 00:29:10.831
And then like the other thing, it’s like, you know, the chemistry on all levels
632
00:29:10.891 –> 00:29:12.532
is powerful. Do you know what I mean?
633
00:29:12.572 –> 00:29:12.712
Yes.
634
00:29:12.752 –> 00:29:16.712
You know, we’re s- we’re, we’re singing karaoke and we’re having fun and he’s like,
635
00:29:16.772 –> 00:29:19.922
and he’s like, “Oh, we gotta write a song ’cause I want r- you to record.” We
636
00:29:20.032 –> 00:29:21.612
record you ’cause you have such a lovely voice.
637
00:29:21.652 –> 00:29:23.532
I mean, he’s, he’s adorable, you know?
638
00:29:23.572 –> 00:29:27.411
And so, like I said, he’s bringing out things in me that I’ve always
639
00:29:27.432 –> 00:29:30.882
been aware of but just never really channeled. And he’s like, “No, no.
640
00:29:30.882 –> 00:29:33.952
Let’s do that.” Like, “I have a keyboard in the basement.” He’s like, “Do you play
641
00:29:33.992 –> 00:29:36.481
this?” I’m like, “I want to.” He’s showing me, he’s like, “Oh, why don’t you start
642
00:29:36.492 –> 00:29:38.121
with these chords?” And he’s so cu- you know what I mean?
643
00:29:38.152 –> 00:29:41.636
This like really sweet-Easy little things.
644
00:29:41.676 –> 00:29:45.576
Got me a journal ’cause he knows I love to write, got me these cute little books
645
00:29:45.616 –> 00:29:48.106
on self-care because he’s like, “Oh, your clients might like these.
646
00:29:48.136 –> 00:29:49.986
It might be useful for them.” You know what I mean?
647
00:29:49.986 –> 00:29:52.696
Like just these little thoughtful things, and his heart is good.
648
00:29:52.706 –> 00:29:52.706
649
00:29:52.716 –> 00:29:55.316
And he’s a generous, beautiful human being.
650
00:29:55.376 –> 00:29:59.196
And I’m like, “Oh my God, I’m I… Oh, I’m seeing a mirror here.” You
651
00:29:59.256 –> 00:30:03.156
know, and it’s just really… And I’m like, “Wow.” Amazing when you- and
652
00:30:03.216 –> 00:30:06.656
when you show up in your full, loving, you know,
653
00:30:06.896 –> 00:30:10.696
self, like where you are so like, uh, you know, you are so in in
654
00:30:10.756 –> 00:30:14.636
with yourself and loving yourself, you shine that light out and that’s what you
655
00:30:14.656 –> 00:30:17.546
attract back, and that’s the biggest thing that I’m, that I’m seeing. It’s
656
00:30:17.546 –> 00:30:20.236
amazing. Yeah, well, and you’re not showing up starved for that.
657
00:30:20.256 –> 00:30:20.866
No. No.
658
00:30:20.916 –> 00:30:24.866
So you’re not settling, and you’re not in a rush because you already have
659
00:30:24.896 –> 00:30:26.226
what you need. So he’s just-
660
00:30:26.236 –> 00:30:26.806
Yes.
661
00:30:26.806 –> 00:30:29.496
… like you are your own reward in all of this.
662
00:30:29.536 –> 00:30:29.776
Yeah.
663
00:30:29.796 –> 00:30:32.405
He’s just the, the cherry on top really.
664
00:30:32.916 –> 00:30:35.085
He really is. And the thing is, is like if it doesn’t…
665
00:30:35.216 –> 00:30:38.836
I don’t care if it works out or not, I’m gonna be fine ’cause I’ve got me.
666
00:30:38.936 –> 00:30:42.626
I have my best friend. I have my BFF. You know, that’s what it is. It’s like…
667
00:30:42.656 –> 00:30:45.676
And knowing that, it is so freeing.
668
00:30:45.695 –> 00:30:49.596
You’re like, “Okay.” So you could just be in the present and enjoy what you
669
00:30:49.636 –> 00:30:51.986
have instead of like, “Well, what about this and what about that?” I had a friend,
670
00:30:52.016 –> 00:30:54.706
she’s like, “Well, what about, what about…” I’m like, “Why don’t you take your
671
00:30:54.756 –> 00:30:57.916
projections and take a deep breath? I don’t care,” you know?
672
00:30:57.936 –> 00:30:58.206
(laughs)
673
00:30:58.206 –> 00:30:58.206
674
00:30:58.236 –> 00:30:59.896
I’m like, “I’m not worried about it.” So yeah.
675
00:30:59.936 –> 00:31:03.776
Oh my God. Well, I feel so lucky that you crossed
676
00:31:03.936 –> 00:31:06.776
our path because you were the perfect client for us.
677
00:31:06.796 –> 00:31:10.736
This is my favorite outcome, of course, and that now
678
00:31:11.176 –> 00:31:14.676
you get to come be a part of our team and help other women rock the
679
00:31:14.716 –> 00:31:18.436
journey and get to the place where they feel as amazing about themselves as you
680
00:31:18.496 –> 00:31:22.406
do about yours, so… Is there anything that you wanna say to anybody who’s
681
00:31:22.436 –> 00:31:25.836
listening who’s on the fence and they’re thinking, “Oh, should I, shouldn’t I?
682
00:31:25.876 –> 00:31:29.396
What if it doesn’t work for me?” Or, I don’t know, maybe it’s too
683
00:31:29.436 –> 00:31:33.396
scary or… Like what words of wisdom do you have now that you’re on
684
00:31:33.416 –> 00:31:34.256
the other side?
685
00:31:34.276 –> 00:31:37.776
For those of you who are like questioning, just imagine
686
00:31:38.916 –> 00:31:41.436
a whole new world for yourself because again, it
687
00:31:41.516 –> 00:31:45.236
is… (sighs) I c- I, I could cry how
688
00:31:45.296 –> 00:31:48.906
beautiful it… Like you, it… Don’t waste the ti- if…
689
00:31:48.916 –> 00:31:52.716
The time is now. If you’re on the fence, cross over the fence,
690
00:31:52.756 –> 00:31:56.036
let the courage take, grip, grip the hand of your fear and walk
691
00:31:56.076 –> 00:31:59.766
together into that light because, you know, it’s like, that’s what…
692
00:31:59.796 –> 00:32:03.216
Your life will change. If you’re ready to show up, like when you are ready to show
693
00:32:03.276 –> 00:32:07.036
up, your whole life is gonna change in such a way that you
694
00:32:07.076 –> 00:32:10.856
will be like this force of love and nature that is
695
00:32:10.896 –> 00:32:14.556
going to attract exactly what you want and exactly what you deserve.
696
00:32:14.616 –> 00:32:16.506
That is what I’m… That is what you’re gonna get out of this.
697
00:32:16.556 –> 00:32:20.036
You are gonna attract the most amazing human beings, not just people you’re
698
00:32:20.076 –> 00:32:23.616
dating, but other human beings are gonna come into your life that are absolutely
699
00:32:23.636 –> 00:32:24.936
magnificent. So that’s what it is.
700
00:32:24.956 –> 00:32:28.116
It’s like you show up in your authentic true
701
00:32:28.256 –> 00:32:32.085
self, where you’re just like everything is… It’s, it’s like you’re like a…
702
00:32:32.085 –> 00:32:35.316
It’s like you’re like superpower and you’re showing up in your full self-
703
00:32:35.336 –> 00:32:35.636
Mm-hmm.
704
00:32:35.796 –> 00:32:37.516
… and that’s what this program has done.
705
00:32:37.696 –> 00:32:41.176
I show up fully and completely myself. I take up space.
706
00:32:41.236 –> 00:32:45.056
I am proud to take up space in this world, and I love the love that I
707
00:32:45.096 –> 00:32:47.556
shine out, that I have from within that just shines out.
708
00:32:47.596 –> 00:32:48.116
So it’s just been-
709
00:32:48.126 –> 00:32:49.916
Yeah, take up space, girl. Take it up.
710
00:32:50.216 –> 00:32:52.236
Yeah, yeah, damn right I take up space. You know, I love it.
711
00:32:52.246 –> 00:32:52.256
Yes.
712
00:32:52.296 –> 00:32:54.886
I’m here, you know. I’m alive, and I want…
713
00:32:54.916 –> 00:32:58.556
And this, and this also gets you to live your life as full, to the fullest.
714
00:32:58.566 –> 00:32:58.566
715
00:32:58.596 –> 00:33:01.796
You wanna live fully. This will teach you how to live fully.
716
00:33:01.865 –> 00:33:01.865
717
00:33:01.916 –> 00:33:02.286
You know?
718
00:33:02.286 –> 00:33:02.286
719
00:33:02.316 –> 00:33:03.966
Nothing’s holding me back. Yeah, that’s what…
720
00:33:03.996 –> 00:33:06.826
You live fully, and you like, you live fully ’cause that’s the thing.
721
00:33:06.856 –> 00:33:10.636
Like after like Todd died, there was a time I was like, I was ready to take myself
722
00:33:10.696 –> 00:33:14.216
out, but there was a moment I woke up and I was like, “No, I, I wanna live.
723
00:33:14.276 –> 00:33:16.296
I want to live.” And this is living.
724
00:33:16.316 –> 00:33:19.936
This is absolute living, where there’s nothing holding you back and-
725
00:33:19.946 –> 00:33:19.946
726
00:33:19.946 –> 00:33:23.726
Yay. … and your job. And like my whole career is just launching, like, “I
727
00:33:23.756 –> 00:33:27.476
am, I am…” Like there’s opportunities just in abundance coming my
728
00:33:27.496 –> 00:33:30.456
way, and that’s what it is. I have the abundance mindset.
729
00:33:30.476 –> 00:33:32.296
That’s the other thing. There’s no scarcity.
730
00:33:32.336 –> 00:33:34.636
I’m like, “Uh-uh, there’s enough for all of us. There’s enough for me.
731
00:33:34.656 –> 00:33:36.266
There’s enough to go around.”
732
00:33:36.276 –> 00:33:36.346
Yeah.
733
00:33:36.346 –> 00:33:40.126
So there’s so many… When I tell you, as I keep talking about, oh my God, there’s
734
00:33:40.156 –> 00:33:43.196
so much more that we keep on earthing that I got out of this program.
735
00:33:43.256 –> 00:33:44.296
So it is just
736
00:33:45.336 –> 00:33:47.386
holy shit if you
737
00:33:47.416 –> 00:33:49.716
It is a masterpiece, I have to say. Like some of my-
738
00:33:49.756 –> 00:33:51.986
Yeah, you should probably put yourself a giant…
739
00:33:51.986 –> 00:33:51.986
740
00:33:52.016 –> 00:33:52.486
Yeah, yeah.
741
00:33:52.936 –> 00:33:56.076
They’re like, “You, you put too much in there.” I’m like, “No, we’re solving the
742
00:33:56.096 –> 00:33:56.546
problem.”
743
00:33:56.546 –> 00:33:56.546
744
00:33:56.546 –> 00:33:57.256
No, you didn’t. “Whatever it takes.”
745
00:33:57.296 –> 00:33:58.116
No, you didn’t.
746
00:33:58.156 –> 00:33:58.236
Yeah.
747
00:33:58.275 –> 00:34:02.176
And women go back. I went back and rewatched several videos and things like
748
00:34:02.236 –> 00:34:05.516
that. There was, there’s a video, I think it’s module six or seven, like when
749
00:34:05.536 –> 00:34:07.796
you’re out doing, going out on a date.
750
00:34:07.856 –> 00:34:11.206
You do like this awesome, like you’re a badass or whatever, and I’m like, I’m like,
751
00:34:11.206 –> 00:34:13.806
“Yeah.” And I would listen to it before I would go out on a date, like you know,
752
00:34:13.836 –> 00:34:17.246
just channel your inner femininity and your sexual, all that stuff, and I would
753
00:34:17.275 –> 00:34:20.386
just wa- And I’m getting ready and I’m listening to it, I’m like, “Yeah.”
754
00:34:20.386 –> 00:34:20.386
755
00:34:20.516 –> 00:34:24.216
It was just… You know, I mean all, like, I mean literally, you thought of
756
00:34:24.356 –> 00:34:28.176
everything. How about that? You thought of everything from start to finish.
757
00:34:28.235 –> 00:34:28.396
Yeah.
758
00:34:28.436 –> 00:34:30.235
So and it was, this was so
759
00:34:31.275 –> 00:34:34.196
beautifully, cleverly, brilliantly pieced together.
760
00:34:34.255 –> 00:34:38.156
Yay. Well, I describe it as an all you can eat buffet, like a smorgasbord, and
761
00:34:38.216 –> 00:34:42.056
you definitely came hungry and you gorged on all the goodness
762
00:34:42.216 –> 00:34:42.556
and-
763
00:34:42.596 –> 00:34:42.686
I did.
764
00:34:42.686 –> 00:34:45.775
… it shows. So like thank you so much for
765
00:34:46.716 –> 00:34:49.376
coming into this, doing the work for yourself.
766
00:34:49.416 –> 00:34:53.296
I’m so happy for you, and then also for sharing your story for all
767
00:34:53.356 –> 00:34:54.536
the listeners today.
768
00:34:54.596 –> 00:34:55.036
Thank you.
769
00:34:55.076 –> 00:34:58.476
It’s just beautiful, and I hope everybody listening is happy for you.
770
00:34:58.496 –> 00:35:02.196
It’s like palpable. You’re jumping off the screen as we’re talking
771
00:35:02.236 –> 00:35:06.196
on, on Zoom and, um, yeah, my cheeks still hurt,
772
00:35:06.296 –> 00:35:06.916
so… (laughs)
773
00:35:06.926 –> 00:35:09.716
Yeah. No, no, thank you. This is awesome.
774
00:35:09.896 –> 00:35:10.086
Yeah.
775
00:35:10.086 –> 00:35:11.196
On so many levels, but yay.
776
00:35:11.296 –> 00:35:11.976
Yay.
777
00:35:11.986 –> 00:35:11.986
778
00:35:12.016 –> 00:35:15.446
Well, I know I get to talk to you more now that you’re part of our team, but um,
779
00:35:15.496 –> 00:35:18.916
I’m so excited to, you know, have you, and if anybody is listening and you
780
00:35:18.996 –> 00:35:20.676
wanna take the next steps, just go to
781
00:35:20.696 –> 00:35:24.676
readyforloveinc.com/apply. Fill out an
782
00:35:24.736 –> 00:35:28.216
application to talk to us, and you might be our next client that Charlene gets to
783
00:35:28.256 –> 00:35:30.136
work with. So yay!
784
00:35:30.176 –> 00:35:30.626
Yay.
785
00:35:30.976 –> 00:35:32.296
So thanks for being here.
786
00:35:32.306 –> 00:35:32.326
Thank
787
00:35:32.326 –> 00:35:35.036
you so much. We’ll see you next time.
