Being low maintenance isn’t a personality trait you were born with. It’s a survival strategy you learned so young that you forgot it was ever a choice.
And it is costing you more than you realize.
Not just in your romantic relationships. In your friendships, at work, in your family, in every room you walk into. You’ve been showing up agreeable, accommodating, easy to be with. And somehow still ending up feeling unseen, disconnected, and quietly exhausted by it all.
Hilary has a name for what’s actually happening. It’s called self-abandonment. And the reason it’s so hard to spot is that it doesn’t feel like giving yourself up. It feels like being a good person.
In this episode, she breaks down where the low maintenance identity actually comes from, why it gets so deeply hardwired that it fires before you even realize it’s happening, and what it’s really costing you in every area of your life. Plus four specific shifts that change how you show up, not just in relationships, but everywhere.
Because the version of you that takes up space and says what she wants isn’t the version that drives people away. She’s the version that finally attracts the right ones.