You’ve spent years on personal growth and self-improvement, so why do you still feel stuck in the same patterns?
You’ve read the books. You’ve done the therapy. You know your attachment style, your childhood wounds, and exactly why you do what you do. But self-awareness doesn’t automatically create change.
On The Ready for Love Podcast, Hilary gets into why personal growth can stall even when you’re doing all the “right” things. Sometimes you’re using the wrong method. Sometimes you have the wrong person helping you. And sometimes the answer is harder to swallow: you know what needs to change, but you’re not actually doing it.
There’s another question worth asking: Has working on yourself become part of your identity? Getting help was never supposed to be the goal. The goal is to solve the problem and move on.
Real change happens when you take what you’ve learned in therapy, coaching, books, and journaling and actually use it. Tell the truth. Have the hard conversation. Take the feedback. Do the uncomfortable thing.
If you’re responsible for what happens next, you’re also the person who can change it.