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It took me until, you know,
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after graduating your program, to realize, to realize
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that the imperfections are what make me,
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me, and make me special.
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Hey, everybody, welcome to the Ready for Love podcast.
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I’m so excited
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because today we are joined
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by a very special guest, Meryl Stern.
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I’m gonna tell you about who she is in just a second.
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But one of my favorite things about the Ready
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for Love platform and company
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and program is that we get to work with the most elite
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and extraordinary women on the planet.
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People who I would never have got to meet otherwise
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because they’re all around the world, um,
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doing the most amazing things,
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and they’re smarter than me in so many ways, and talented.
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And, um, so today Meryl is one of our graduates,
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and she, in her own words, says I’m many things.
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Um, but she is actually an award-winning interior designer,
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and she just co-founded a new design firm
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with her daughter called The Stern Studio.
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And it is a very luxury, global inspired residential
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and hospitality firm.
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And you can tell if you’re watching this on YouTube,
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not just listening, that you, you can tell her style
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because right behind her is all this gorgeousness.
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We were joking that we have a similar aesthetic
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because her background looks very similar to mine.
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Um, but welcome Meryl.
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Thank you so much. It’s great to be here. I’m
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So happy that you’re here. You’re
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one of my favorites of all time.
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We’ve just really bonded over the years. Absolutely.
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Um, so I’m excited to talk to you.
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We’re gonna di dive in
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and we’re gonna share with everybody kind of
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what your experience has been from the very beginning, like
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where you were and what you were struggling
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with when you signed up, and then where you are now.
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So why don’t we start with that.
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Tell everybody kind of what was going on with you
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and what were your, what was like your pain
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points? I guess? At the time
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I had gone through a whole kind of journey,
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a traveling journey, and I had moved across the country, um,
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and for like, I don’t know, I guess five years.
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Then I moved back and it was very, um, obvious to me
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that I was not focused on dating at all,
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and that I had kind of built a wall.
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Um, I, I dated a little bit, you know, here and there,
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but I was just, everything was a no to me.
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Um, and I knew I needed help.
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You popped up on Facebook, thank goodness,
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and, you know, that’s, that’s how it started.
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Yeah. So were you aware of the wall?
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Like you started to notice the wall
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that you were closed off?
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Yeah, totally. Was aware of the wall,
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didn’t know how to break it down.
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Yeah. And what was that looking like?
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Were you just, everybody was,
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you were picking apart the people
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that were interested in you,
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or you felt yourself being closed
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or you weren’t going out anymore?
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Like, what was the wall?
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I think I was just very comfortable being alone.
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Uh, and I, and from doing the work
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that I did with you, I know why.
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Um, but yeah, I think like the guys that I would go out
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with, um, I would find what they didn’t have
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for me instead of focusing on the really important things.
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I mean, honestly, like,
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if I didn’t like their name, I would swipe left.
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Like that’s ridiculous. Yeah. Yeah. Well, so that’s
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Like nitpicking, because you right, when women do that,
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when they’re like backing themselves into a corner, right?
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Like, no, not him. No, not him. No, not him. Right.
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Because it’s scary to say Yes.
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It’s scary to, it’s, I guess I just didn’t trust myself,
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um, or anyone else at the time, you know,
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that this could work out.
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Everything was a no. And I needed to really do a deep dive
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and figure it all out.
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Yeah. Which is how I started with you.
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Yeah. And how long had you been single?
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Do you remember? At the time,
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I mean, I had been divorced I guess about 10 years.
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Okay. Um, I had a few, a couple on, you know, on
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and off long-term relationships,
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but I, the reason they were on and off is
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because I was never gonna fully commit to them.
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I knew that they weren’t the right ones for me.
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Um, but they were great guys.
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So, you know, you kind of wonder back
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and forth, you know, you, is this the
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guy, is this not the guy?
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You’re balancing like the pros, the cons when
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You pick the guy that you know isn’t the one, it’s easy
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to just kind of be half in
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and half out, you know, like Right.
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It’s, uh, it’s kind of like, um,
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you are the one, you’re non-committal.
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Okay. So then when, like, what was going on in the program
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that were, what were some of the takeaways, I guess,
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the breakthroughs or the ahas
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for you early on in the program?
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So early on in the program, the, the most incredible thing
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to me was the way you structured it.
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Honestly, the modules.
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We had weekly Zoom meetings with the community, which was
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so supportive and so, you know, wonderful.
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Um, and then we also had the recordings that we could listen
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to over and over again.
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We could, you know, we’re busy, we’re working, we have kids,
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whatever it is, we could stop it, pick it up again,
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you know, I loved doing that.
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And then I think the really most important thing was the
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homework, was the writing down the, you know,
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the journaling, um, the questions
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and really forcing you to do a deep dive.
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There’s something about pen to paper Yeah.
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That is different than typing.
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And, uh, you know, I think I just came across
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some research study about that.
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I’m like, yes, that’s, that’s why we do it.
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And that just reinforced why it’s to do the pen
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to paper For sure.
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You actually, I, uh, I remember in the, uh,
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the first module, I think it was like figuring out
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what your role was in the family when you were young
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and how that, you know, came forward with you
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and how is that working for you now.
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And then you had to, um, quit resign
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and you had to write a resignation
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letter, which was brilliant.
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the reasons why you’re resigning
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and why you don’t need to be that role anymore, you know?
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Yeah. I love that. And actually I love that too.
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That is one of my favorite tools, um, of all time. Mm-hmm.
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I learned that in undergrad when I was 19 years
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old, interestingly enough.
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Like, I didn’t make that up,
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but I, it stuck with me all these years.
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It’s just so profound.
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It is. It works. And what were some of your roles?
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Like, do you, what were you doing that you,
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do you remember that exercise? Um,
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when I was younger, I had to
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prove that I was brave and, um, kind of do everything.
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I was very opposite, um, from my mother.
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I kind of had to take on all these roles that I, I didn’t
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like, like she worked.
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She had to work full-time.
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My parents were divorced when I was very young,
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and our house was very dark.
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And I just remember like, having to find ways
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to bring light into my life.
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And to this day, light, physical light
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is very important to me.
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And I know why. I think I know why. You’ve
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Been doing it since you were little.
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I was doing it since I was little.
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Um, I,
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because we didn’t get along, there were a lot of reasons.
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I kind of grew up behind a closed door.
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So I think that’s why I like being alone. Mm-hmm. Yeah.
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Very comfortable being alone. Yeah. It’s always alone.
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My mother, um,
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I’m not saying bad things we’re just very different.
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She didn’t like to spend time together.
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She would get home from work and go right up to her room
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and shut the door, her bedroom, you know?
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Um, we didn’t always have dinner together.
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We just, we didn’t do any family
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vacations or anything like that.
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So, um, I had to find ways, you know, for it to work for me.
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I love that we got to dismantle all of that b******t.
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I know. And it’s gone. Bye. Its
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Goodbye. Does it work anymore?
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You don’t need it anymore. Right.
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Okay. So, so that was one.
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Anything else that, like, you feel like you’ve
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really carried forth?
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There’s so much I don’t even know where to start.
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Uh, I mean, I learned who I was
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and why I behaved the way I did,
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and I learned what I had to do to rewrite,
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you know, my story.
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I was a people pleaser.
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I wasn’t, um, I thought I needed to be like a martyr
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so I would be good enough.
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And actually that is the opposite to me now.
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Um, I needed to learn to take care of me
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because I was taking care of everyone else,
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and that wasn’t working at the end of the day. Yeah. You
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Were care. I mean, again, like
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we go back to our programming
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and our conditioning and our training,
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and this does always go back to childhood.
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Mm-hmm. And what we don’t do in the program is belabor that
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and sit and spin in it, like therapy can do.
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Right. We Right. We look at it,
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but it’s really to go back to those origin points,
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find those really seminal moments Right.
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That impacted us and chart a new path forward. Yeah.
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And rewrite that. And that sounds like
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what you were saying about rewriting the story.
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Totally. I mean, I think
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probably my biggest thing was not being good
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enough in so many ways.
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I was not good enough, I thought. Yeah.
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Or I was told that I was not good enough. Um, which
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Is crazy. Which
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is crazy. And it took me until, you know,
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after graduating your program, to realize, to realize
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that the imperfections are
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what make me me and make me special.
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So what does that mean? Not good enough. Like, uh, okay.
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So I’ve got like old looking arms right now. You know what?
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That’s me. And that’s great.
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You know, people who have like, you know, a little freckle
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or a dimple, that’s what makes them unique
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and like admirable. Yeah.
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We can appreciate it in other people, can’t we? Right.
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So it’s hard to just mirroring,
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accept it in ourselves. Yeah.
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Right. You know, like all the plastic surgery
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and everyone’s getting a facelift now,
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and like everything’s going on.
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I look at some of these people
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and I think you are so beautiful.
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And literally it’s not all about physical beauty.
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Like, you’re still your person
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and everyone’s still gonna love you.
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It doesn’t really matter, you know,
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that you got, you know, work done. So, and people
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But it is about the inner, like,
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making peace with the things that we learned about ourselves
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that were unlovable,
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Which we thought were unlovable.
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Yeah. Didn’t have confidence.
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It’s really a lot about confidence
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and a lot of what I learned in your course also
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translated into business.
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Um, well tell us. Absolutely.
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Like mentoring
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and teaching others, you know, it just, it’s all wrapped up.
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It’s really, you know, it’s not like, um, what’s the word?
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Like, separate boxes, you know? Yeah.
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It’s not isolated to just love. And that’s what I love.
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I mean, all of our business owner clients write this off on
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their expenses because it, it’s really identity work.
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Oh. It’s when you’re working, when you expand your identity.
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Mm-hmm. That part, like you’re,
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I I call it being the son in your own universe.
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Like everything orbits around you. Right.
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So, of course, like, so we, we shared at the beginning
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of the show that you just started a new design
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firm with your daughter.
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Right. So that’s interesting.
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I mean, that’s gotta be loaded.
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So how have you, how do you navigate that?
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She has worked for me on
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and off her entire life, obviously.
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’cause I’ve been doing this over 30 years,
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and she’s taken on projects on her own, you know,
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her friends or friends of friends.
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And she’s done a beautiful job.
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She is really incredibly talented.
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Um, she also has a set of young eyes
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where I am 30 years into the business.
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So that’s really important to me.
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You know, I don’t know that generation like she does.
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Um, and what they like and what they’re looking for
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and how to promote it, how to market it, all of that.
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She knows all of that. She did not go to school for it,
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which is totally fine.
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I think it’s great to go to school,
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but you learn so much when you’re in the business.
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So after, uh, after this back
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and forth, she finally decided she would join me
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and didn’t wanna work for me, wanted to partner with me.
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So we literally rebranded.
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It used to be Meryl Stern Interiors,
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now it’s the Stern Studio.
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Um, so we’re equals
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and, um, we, we have a 10:00 AM phone call every single day.
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And, um, you know, different jobs and things that we do,
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and then we re we unite and it’s going great.
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That’s amazing. I mean,
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that is the ultimate dual relationship.
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Yeah, that’s what it’s actually called when you,
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You stay in your lane.
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Yeah. Like right now, I’m not your mother,
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I’m your partner, you know?
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Yeah. You have to know how to do that,
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how to navigate that. Yeah.
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Yeah. You kind of code switch. You code switch. Right.
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But I mean, I think
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that requires really strong emotional intelligence
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and boundaries and mm-hmm.
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Communication skills. How has your business mindset grown?
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Or how has the business grown?
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Or what, how has, has the work on yourself
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transferred over into business?
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Well, most of it has to do with confidence.
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Um, you know, when you are, um, picking your person,
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that’s kind of the same as picking your client.
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Mm-hmm. It’s not that your client picks you,
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and it’s not that your guy picks you, you pick them.
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Yeah. You know, so, um, that’s a big, big thing. That’s,
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Can we just, let’s just stop.
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’cause that’s a really big paradigm shift,
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especially in the business world.
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Mm-hmm. Right. I, we’ve, we talked about that.
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’cause after Ready for Love, you stuck around
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for a little while and did some
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of the business mentoring too with me.
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Right. And it is, yeah.
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Like, We don’t, ready
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for love doesn’t just take anybody, you know,
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our coaching programs, we, we are very selective
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because we’re looking for the women
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that we know are gonna actually do the
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work and get the result.
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So for you, you’re not just gonna take any client who’s
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willing to pay you, you get to pick two,
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Right? Yes, a hundred
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percent. I mean, there are, you know,
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red flags for boyfriends, they’re red flags for clients.
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Yes, you are. Yeah. Yeah.
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So being discerning and trusting your gut
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and paying attention to your intuition and,
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And knowing your value, which is also part
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of knowing your good enough, you know, learning, um,
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how to communicate.
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That’s a whole other, there’s just so much.
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There’s, I’m a student forever,
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and you know, as well as a leader and a mentor, you know,
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or a teacher, whatever, you’re both,
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that’s your journey. Yeah.
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Yeah. And I love that.
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I do too. I mean, I do too.
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And I, but I also wanna say like, there comes a time when,
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yeah, we wanna be open to learning new things,
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otherwise we’re not growing.
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But I truly believe at the end of the Ready
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for Love program, women, and this is
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because one woman told me this, her testimonial
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that she gave me years ago was,
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I can stop seeking the answers to what’s wrong with me.
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Like, it didn’t feel like she was constantly
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seeking, how do I fix myself?
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What’s wrong with me? Right.
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She was able to just start reading books for pleasure.
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It was no longer about self-help,
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help self-help self-help, fix me, fix me.
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So yeah, we wanna learn and be open to things,
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but there’s just a difference around like
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what you’re being open to learning versus needing to prove
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that you’re okay or something like that. Yeah.
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It’s not the proving that you’re okay.
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It’s like you get yourself into a different situation.
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For example, I was just reading a book, uh,
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I forget the name of it, but it, it’s like learning to speak
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to your adult children.
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Yes. They’re still your children,
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but they’re adults now, so you have to shift.
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That’s, that’s important for a lot of parents.
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They do not do that. Yeah. Right. What are we celebrating?
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I know you had that big feature in Architectural Digest.
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Tell us all about that.
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Um, I really, uh, was so lucky and grateful
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and deserving to win this amazing client.
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It’s a younger couple. When we started, uh,
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they had just gotten married.
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Um, the project took three years to complete.
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And so now they have, um, a 3-year-old, well,
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almost three year three.
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Um, and they trusted me a hundred percent
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to start from scratch.
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I literally drew this house on paper, uh, based on,
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you know, our discussions and what I thought would be great.
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Uh, and they totally went with it.
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I then handed it off to an architect.
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I’m not an architect, but I, I love space planning.
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I, it’s almost like a puzzle.
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Like how does it make the most sense for things
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to come together and where do you wanna spend,
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how do you wanna feel in your space?
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Where do you wanna spend the most time?
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Are you a big entertaining family? Are you a private family?
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Do you work from home? All these different things, you know?
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Uh, so they just, um,
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usually I do all these big presentations.
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They really trusted me so much
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that they didn’t even wanna see most of the, I mean,
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they would look at it and just say, oh, just do it. Just do
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It. Well, that’s a dream. Client’s
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a dream client.
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She doesn’t want that kind of a client.
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But you know what the, the reward of all of it was
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that obviously it worked
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because my goal, my biggest business goal was
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to get into AD since I’m like a young kid.
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That was the top magazine.
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Um, so the fact that they took this was just,
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It worked out like all around.
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That’s amazing. So they got what they wanted.
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You got mm-hmm. And three years is a long time. Yeah.
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Well, it was a build, you know, it
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Was a total build. Yeah. Wow.
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12,000 square foot house.
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Every little detail, like all the little bases and stuff.
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There is nothing, nothing that I did not do,
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I think except the, the gate in the front.
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Oh my God. There is, well, can you do you know exactly,
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I’m sure you do share with the listeners in case everybody’s
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wants to go check it out.
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What is the, what is the volume
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or the, you know, which, which year, month,
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It’s dig, it’s digital.
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Okay. So if they go to, uh,
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the Stern Studio, you can see it on there.
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Okay. Um, yeah. Yeah.
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It’s not like, that’s not how they do it anymore.
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So it’s, it’s digital. It’s
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Not in print anymore.
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I mean, it’s very Ad’s print is like a pamphlet right now.
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Yeah. Oh, wow. Yeah.
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I mean, I have it on my shelf, I think. Mm-hmm.
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You probably have it on yours. Yeah.
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Yeah. Yeah. I mean, of course I still,
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you know, get the physical ones.
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I love them. Yeah.
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Uh, but yeah, it’s mostly, it’s mostly digital
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and if you’re on, you can sign up for it.
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And they also take a lot of celebrities like that.
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I’m not a celebrity, so,
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but that’s what they’re interested in. So
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It’s really amazing that you got in there then.
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That’s like, seriously.
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Yeah. Good. So exciting. I love. Yeah.
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See, we love, I just love celebrate.
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I told y’all that I get to work with the best, the best
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of the best, most interesting dynamic powerhouse women.
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And so of course, everybody wants
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to know what’s going on in your love life.
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Tell us the wins, the loses, the ups,
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the downs, you know, tell us.
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Yeah. I can’t say I’m, uh, with anyone right now.
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I, I think I am just, um,
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really aware of who I am.
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Uh, I’m not the swiping left on names anymore, obviously,
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but, um, I’m aware of what my real priorities are
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and needs are, and if that person is not aligned with me,
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then we’re not a match.
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I would rather be alone than be with someone.
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You know, that’s gonna be a lot
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of work and we’re not aligned.
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So, yeah. Um, that’s kind of where I’m at right now. Yeah.
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Well, I mean, our 98% success rate is, has nothing to do
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with women finding a person.
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It, you know, a lot of women do.
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They have rings on fingers
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and you know, a lot of that houses
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that they build, a lot of them do.
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But actually what I love the most is when women
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just show up differently, more powerfully.
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More aware. Yeah. More, yeah.
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Knowing their worth and their value.
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And women say, the old me would’ve stayed with this person
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and made it work, but the new me broke up with him.
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So I love celebrating breakups because of that very reason.
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Right. So the, the success rate is based on women saying, I
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I came away from this experience a better
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me in so many ways. That’s the win.
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That is the win. And that is 100% true. Yeah. Yeah.
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I mean, I, I think the world should take your course
485
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because it’s not just about love, like you said,
486
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it’s really about being the best you can be.
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Your, um, first printout was Get the Love You Want.
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I crossed it out and wrote, get everything you want.
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I love it. That’s the truth though. Yeah.
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That was the name of the program when I first started,
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because honestly, I didn’t have any
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idea how big it would get.
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And I knew there was a book
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by Harville Hendrix called Get the Love You Want from a
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long, long, long, long time ago.
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And I couldn’t think of a better name, so I was like,
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that’s exactly what I wanna be teaching.
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So that’s what I’m gonna call it.
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But as we grew, it became a conflict, you know,
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it there, of course, trademarked.
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So I had, I think I just didn’t realize
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how big we were gonna get
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and how that,
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that would be a problem at some point in the future.
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So we had to rebrand
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and change the name, um, from get the sense
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Sense, I mean, and look what happened.
508
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Yeah. It just snowballed.
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Yep, it did. Yeah. Like look where we are now. Yeah.
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Thank you for coming on the show
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and telling everybody your story and being vulnerable.
512
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I know it’s not easy to broadcast, you know, the,
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the intricacies of your psychology
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and your relationship love life story.
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But, um, I think when we, when women are willing to share,
516
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it just helps other women see what’s possible.
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I love to do that because I get
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value from them doing it too.
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Um, so yeah.
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I’m so happy to, that you asked me to do this. Yeah.
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And I, I had this one area in my
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house that I want you to help me with. Will you help me?
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Absolutely. We,
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Yes, I can tell we, we get along style wise
525
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in every other way too, but
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See, we’re aligned. We can
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have a relationship.
528
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We can a dual relationship even.
529
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Exactly. Well, thanks Meryl.
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And, and check out, uh, the stern studio.com so
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that you can see all of, uh, Meryl’s amazing work.
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And, um, I’ll see you guys next time. Thanks for being here.
